Old Married Couple
There is this very old married couple, their names are Frank and Sue. Frank and Sue have been married since they were 19 years old, they are 72 now. “Hey grandpa, how have you been married to grandma for so long?” asked Frank’s grandson, only 9 years of age. Frank looked down at his grandson then looked up rubbing his chin trying to think of an answer.
“I can’t seem to get rid of her,” he said with a sarcastic tone. At only 9 years of age Frank’s grandson was very intrigued by the answer his grandfather had given him, he watched his grandparents relationship very closely throughout the years. As the years went by and the once 9 year old little boy had now turned into a 16 year old young man, Frank’s grandson was still fasicatined by the relationship his grandparents had been able to maintain for so long. By this time he knew that the answer his grandfather had given to him at the age of 9 was just a joke but he still found their relationship very intriguing. A few more years went by and one day Frank’s now 19 year old grandson had a question for his now 82 year old grandmother.
“Hey grandma,” he walked over sat down next to her and continued, “this may seem kind of random but how had you and grandpa done it all those years?” His grandma looked at him with a perplexed look and responded.
“Well what exactly do you mean?” she said.
“Well you and grandpa had been married all those years, and growing up I had never seen you guys hug, kiss, or show any affection towards each other whatsoever. But when you guys were together you could just see and feel the strong connection between the two of you. What’s the secret, how did you and grandpa maintain such a strong happy marriage for over 50 years.” Sue looked at her grandson and took a very long 30 seconds trying to think of her answer. Anticipating a very wise, complex answer from his 82 year old grandmother his eyes were wide and his mouth was open waiting for a response.
“Just talk to each other,” his grandma said. He was surprised, he did a quick chuckle and responded.
“Really, that’s it huh? Just that simple?” he asked.
“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said,” and that’s she said.
Even today, now a 35 year old man with a wife and 3 kids of his own he still often looks back and reflects on his grandparents, and the happy marriage they were able to maintain for so many years. Whenever things seem to be going south in his own marriage he thinks of what his grandmother told him as a teenager, he always listens to what his wife has to say. But most importantly, even though it seems impossible he always tries to hear the things that aren’t being said.